Love Isn’t What You Think It Is: Paul’s Revolutionary Take on Love
What’s 1 Corinthians 13 about?
Paul takes a church obsessed with spiritual showboating and drops the most profound definition of love ever written. It’s not romantic poetry—it’s a surgical description of what genuine Christian community looks like when self-centeredness dies.
The Full Context
Picture this: You’re in ancient Corinth, a bustling port city where money flows like wine and everyone’s trying to climb the social ladder. The church there had become a spiritual talent show—people competing over who had the most impressive spiritual gifts, who could speak in tongues the loudest, who had the most spectacular prophecies. It was Christianity meets reality TV, and Paul was not having it.
Paul wrote this letter around 55 AD to address the chaos. The Corinthians had turned their church gatherings into competitions, with the spiritually “gifted” lording it over everyone else. Some were getting drunk at communion while others went hungry. They were taking each other to court, sleeping around, and generally acting like their faith was just another club membership.
This famous “love chapter” sits right in the middle of Paul’s discussion about spiritual gifts (chapters 12-14), and it’s not coincidental. He’s not writing a hallmark card—he’s performing surgery on their understanding of what Christian community should actually look like. The literary context is crucial: sandwiched between discussions of spiritual gifts, this chapter serves as the “more excellent way” Paul promised to show them. It’s his answer to spiritual pride and religious performance.
What the Ancient Words Tell Us
When Paul uses the Greek word agape for love here, he’s not talking about romance or even friendship. This word was relatively rare in classical Greek literature—Paul and the early Christians essentially hijacked it and filled it with revolutionary meaning. Agape is love as action, love as choice, love that has nothing to do with how you feel and everything to do with what you do.
Grammar Geeks
The verbs Paul uses here are fascinating—most are in the present tense, meaning this isn’t occasional love but continuous, habitual action. When he says love “is patient,” the Greek makrothumei literally means “long-tempered”—the opposite of having a short fuse. It’s not passive waiting; it’s active endurance.
Look at how Paul structures this masterpiece. He starts with what love does (verses 4-7), then what love doesn’t do, then back to what it does. It’s like he’s building a fortress of positive actions, protecting them with walls of what love refuses to do. The Greek text reads like a series of hammer blows: love is patient, love is kind, love does not envy, love does not boast…
The word for “bears all things” (panta stegei) is particularly powerful—it’s the same word used for a roof that doesn’t leak. Love provides shelter. It covers. It protects. This isn’t about being a doormat; it’s about being a shelter in someone else’s storm.
What Would the Original Audience Have Heard?
The Corinthians would have heard this as a direct challenge to their cultural values. In their honor-shame society, showing off your spiritual gifts was a way to gain respect and climb the social ladder. Paul’s description of love—not envying, not boasting, not being arrogant—would have sounded like social suicide.
When Paul says love “does not insist on its own way,” the Greek phrase ou zetei ta heautes would have been shocking. In Corinthian culture, pursuing your own interests was not just acceptable—it was expected. Successful people fought for their rights, demanded their due, and made sure everyone knew about their achievements.
Did You Know?
In Corinth, public speaking and rhetorical skill were highly prized. When Paul says love doesn’t boast (ou perpereuetai), he’s using a word that specifically refers to the kind of self-promotional speaking that Corinthians admired. He’s basically saying love doesn’t do TED talks about itself.
The phrase “love never ends” would have been particularly meaningful. In a city known for its transactional relationships—business partnerships, political alliances, even marriages—the idea of something permanent, something that doesn’t depend on performance or mutual benefit, would have been revolutionary.
Wrestling with the Text
Here’s where it gets challenging: Paul isn’t just describing an ideal—he’s describing what should be normal in Christian community. But anyone who’s spent time in a church knows how rarely we see this kind of love consistently lived out. So what do we do with this gap?
The key might be in verse 12: “Now I know in part; then I shall know fully.” Paul isn’t setting us up for failure; he’s acknowledging that we’re all works in progress. This chapter isn’t a law to beat ourselves up with—it’s a vision to grow into.
Notice Paul doesn’t say “try to be more loving.” He simply describes what love looks like. It’s like he’s holding up a mirror and letting us see the difference between our current reality and God’s design. The conviction comes naturally.
“Love isn’t a feeling you fall into—it’s a way of life you choose to walk in, one decision at a time.”
But here’s the really uncomfortable part: if this is what love looks like, how much of what we call “love” is actually something else entirely? How often do we love conditionally, expecting something in return? How often is our “love” actually manipulation, control, or emotional transaction?
How This Changes Everything
This passage completely reframes how we think about spiritual maturity. In Corinth, maturity meant having impressive spiritual gifts. Paul says maturity means loving well. You could prophesy with stunning accuracy, but if you’re not patient with your difficult neighbor, you’re still spiritually immature.
It also changes how we read the rest of Scripture. Every time we see Jesus interacting with people—the woman at the well, the disciples who keep missing the point, the crowds who want to make him king—we’re seeing this kind of love in action. Patient, kind, not insisting on its own way, not keeping a record of wrongs.
Wait, That’s Strange…
Paul says spiritual gifts will pass away, but love never ends. This means the very things the Corinthians were competing over were temporary, while the thing they were ignoring—love—is eternal. It’s like fighting over who gets to play with toys that are about to be thrown away while ignoring the treasure that lasts forever.
This isn’t just about individual relationships—it’s about how the church should function as a community. Imagine a church where people actually lived this way. Where conflicts were resolved with patience instead of pride. Where people’s gifts were celebrated without competition. Where mistakes were met with kindness instead of condemnation.
The revolutionary truth is that love like this creates the very environment where spiritual gifts can actually function as God intended—not for personal glory, but for building up the community. It’s not love versus spiritual gifts; it’s love as the foundation that makes spiritual gifts truly powerful.
Key Takeaway
Love isn’t a feeling you fall into—it’s a way of life you choose to walk in, one decision at a time. Paul isn’t describing an impossible standard; he’s painting a picture of what human relationships look like when they’re powered by God’s grace instead of our neediness.
Further Reading
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External Scholarly Resources:
- The First Epistle to the Corinthians by Gordon Fee
- 1 Corinthians by Anthony Thiselton
- Paul’s Letters to the Corinthians by Tom Wright
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1 Corinthians 13:1, 1 Corinthians 13:4, 1 Corinthians 13:8, 1 Corinthians 13:13, Love, Spiritual gifts, Christian community, Patience, Kindness, Humility, Forgiveness, Corinth, Agape, Paul’s letters
