Chapter
3 John – The Letter That Almost Got Lost in the Mail
What’s this Book All About?
Third John is the shortest book in the Bible – a personal letter from the Apostle John to his friend Gaius about hospitality, church politics gone wrong, and what happens when leaders let power go to their heads. It’s ancient drama with timeless lessons about supporting ministry and standing up to bullies.
The Full Context
Picture this: it’s around 85-95 AD, and the Apostle John – now an elderly man in his 80s or 90s – is dealing with a church crisis that feels remarkably modern. He’s writing a deeply personal letter to someone named Gaius, a friend he clearly loves and trusts. But this isn’t just a friendly check-in. John has a serious problem on his hands: a church leader named Diotrephes who’s gone rogue, refusing to welcome traveling missionaries and actually kicking people out of the church for showing hospitality to these ministers.
The letter emerges from a specific crisis in early Christian community life. As Christianity spread across the Roman Empire, it depended heavily on a network of traveling teachers and evangelists. These weren’t tourists – they were essential to maintaining unity and spreading the Gospel across vast distances. But someone had to house them, feed them, and support their ministry. This created a beautiful system of Christian hospitality, but it also created opportunities for abuse and conflict. Third John gives us a window into what happened when this system broke down and how John, as an apostolic authority, dealt with a local leader who was undermining the entire network of Christian fellowship and mission.
What the Ancient Words Tell Us
The Greek word philoxenia (hospitality) appears at the heart of this conflict, and it’s worth understanding what John means by it. This isn’t just “being nice to guests” – it literally means “love of strangers.” In the ancient world, hospitality was a sacred duty, and for early Christians, it became a defining characteristic of their communities.
When John calls Gaius his agapetos (beloved), he’s using the same word Jesus used for His disciples. This is covenant language – the kind of deep, committed love that binds the Christian community together. But notice the contrast: while Gaius shows philoxenia to strangers, Diotrephes shows the opposite – philoproteuo, which means “loving to be first” or “loving preeminence.”
Grammar Geeks
The verb John uses for Diotrephes “gossiping” about them is phlyareo – it literally means “to talk nonsense” or “bubble over with words.” It’s the same root we get our English word “flabbergast” from. John isn’t just saying Diotrephes talks too much; he’s saying the man is speaking complete nonsense about the apostles.
Here’s what’s fascinating: John uses present tense verbs throughout this letter. Gaius is walking in truth, Diotrephes is gossiping maliciously, the brothers are testifying. This isn’t ancient history John is recounting – this is an active, ongoing crisis that needs immediate attention.
What Would the Original Audience Have Heard?
When Gaius received this letter, he would have immediately understood the gravity of the situation. The early church operated on a complex network of relationships and mutual support. John’s authority as an apostle was being directly challenged by Diotrephes, and this wasn’t just a personality conflict – it was threatening the entire missionary enterprise in that region.
The mention of “the brothers who testify to your truth” would have carried enormous weight. In a culture where reputation was everything, having multiple witnesses speak well of your character was like having a gold-star recommendation. Gaius wasn’t just being praised; he was being publicly endorsed by the apostolic community.
But the real shock would have been John’s description of Diotrephes. In a culture that valued hospitality as a sacred duty, refusing to welcome Christian travelers wasn’t just rude – it was scandalous. Even worse, Diotrephes was “casting out” (ekballo) people who did show hospitality. This is the same word used for casting out demons! John is essentially saying this church leader is acting like an evil spirit in the church.
Did You Know?
The early church had no church buildings, no denominations, and no formal organizational structure as we know it today. Everything depended on personal relationships and networks of trust. When someone like Diotrephes broke that trust, it could isolate entire communities from the broader Christian movement.
The original audience would also have caught the subtle but important distinction John makes between “the church” and “them” when talking about Diotrephes’ behavior. John doesn’t say Diotrephes controls the church – he says Diotrephes won’t receive “us” (the apostolic team) when John comes to the church. This suggests there might be hope for the community, even if their current leader is problematic.
But Wait… Why Did Diotrephes Do This?
Here’s where the letter gets really intriguing. John doesn’t actually explain why Diotrephes is behaving this way, which leaves us with a genuine puzzle. Was this a theological disagreement? A power struggle? Personal animosity?
The clue might be in that phrase “loving to be first” (philoproteuo). This is the only place this word appears in the entire New Testament, and John seems to have chosen it very deliberately. Diotrephes wasn’t just disagreeing with John’s theology or methodology – he wanted to be the top dog, the final authority in his community.
Think about the timing: this is late first century, probably 30-40 years after Paul’s letters, 50-60 years after Jesus’ death and resurrection. The original apostles are dying off. There’s a natural transition happening from apostolic authority to local church governance. Maybe Diotrephes saw this as his moment to establish independence from the old guard.
Wait, That’s Strange…
John says he wrote to the church, but Diotrephes “does not receive us.” What happened to that first letter? Did Diotrephes intercept it? Suppress it? This suggests the conflict might be even more serious than what we see on the surface – we might be looking at an early case of church mail tampering!
Or perhaps there’s a deeper issue here. The traveling teachers John is endorsing were dependent on local churches for support. What if some of them were taking advantage of Christian hospitality? What if Diotrephes had legitimate concerns about itinerant ministers but expressed them in completely the wrong way?
Wrestling with the Text
The more you dig into 3 John, the more it feels like reading someone else’s text messages about a complex family drama. We’re getting one side of a multi-layered conflict, and there are clearly things John assumes Gaius knows that we don’t.
Take John’s promise: “If I come, I will bring up what he is doing.” This sounds almost threatening, doesn’t it? What exactly is John planning to do? Is this pastoral discipline or apostolic authority flexing its muscles? The Greek word hypomimnesko (bring up/remind) can mean anything from “gently mention” to “formally accuse.”
And what about poor Demetrius at the end? John says he has “testimony from everyone, and from the truth itself.” That’s a beautiful commendation, but why does John feel the need to vouch for him so strongly? Is Demetrius the letter carrier? A potential replacement for Diotrephes? Someone else who’s been caught up in this conflict?
“Sometimes the shortest letters reveal the longest stories – and 3 John proves that church drama is as old as the church itself.”
Here’s what I find most challenging about this letter: John doesn’t give us a neat resolution. He doesn’t explain exactly what Diotrephes’ theological errors were (if any apart from pride). He doesn’t outline a clear process for church discipline. He just says, “I’ll deal with this when I get there.” For those of us who like our biblical narratives tied up with a bow, 3 John leaves us hanging.
How This Changes Everything
But maybe that’s the point. Third John isn’t a systematic theology textbook – it’s a glimpse into real church life, with all its messiness and complexity. And what it reveals is both troubling and encouraging.
The troubling part: church conflict isn’t new. Power struggles, personality clashes, and disagreements about authority have been part of Christian community from the very beginning. If you’ve ever been in a church split or watched leaders behave badly, you’re experiencing something the apostles dealt with too.
The encouraging part: notice how John handles this crisis. He doesn’t blast Diotrephes on social media (the ancient equivalent would have been writing a public letter to multiple churches). He doesn’t rally other leaders to gang up on the problem church. Instead, he writes a personal letter to someone he trusts, affirms the people who are doing well, and promises to address the issue face-to-face.
John’s approach reveals something profound about Christian leadership: it’s relational before it’s positional. His authority with Gaius doesn’t come from his title as “the apostle John” – it comes from their relationship, their shared commitment to truth, and John’s consistent pattern of love and integrity.
And here’s the thing that really changes everything: John treats hospitality as a Gospel issue. This isn’t just about being polite to visitors – it’s about participating in the truth. When we welcome Christian workers, support ministry, and create spaces for people to encounter Jesus, we become “fellow workers for the truth.”
Did You Know?
The Greek phrase synergoi te aletheia (fellow workers for the truth) suggests that hospitality isn’t just supporting ministry – it’s actually doing ministry. Every time you host a small group, support a missionary, or welcome a stranger, you’re participating in God’s mission to the world.
That means your spare bedroom, your dinner table, your willingness to drive someone to church or help with a ministry event – all of that is Kingdom of God work. John is saying that the person who writes the check for missions and the person who provides housing for the missionary are both essential partners in spreading the gospel.
Key Takeaway
The shortest letter in the Bible teaches us that how we treat people – especially those serving the Messiah’s mission – reveals everything about our relationship with the truth itself. Christian community isn’t about perfect people; it’s about people who choose hospitality over hostility, support over selfishness, and relationship over power.
Further Reading
Internal Links:
External Scholarly Resources:
